Children and working mother
Women are an imperative part of the Indian family system. Usually, the male wins the ‘head of the family’ title as they are the basic bread winner of the family. Today, majority of women have proved that they can earn better bread. Women have proved themselves in almost all the fields, today. Right from an auto driver or a bus conductor to scientists, women have entered and marked their successful foot prints.
Working women are becoming a major concept for common debates. Issues such as sexual harassment and eve teasing that are faced by the working women generally pop up for such debates. But this has a flipper side to it. It is the mental issues that hurdles the minds of working women.
Whether working or homemaker, a women is an invariable caretaker of the family. Managing the family and providing the needs of the family members is, on one hand, a vital responsibility of a women whilst, being a dedicated employee for the office is equally important.
Women above 30 years of age, with children at home, face lots of psychological issues. Though, women perform excellence in all fields of their career, it is the thoughts of their child that occupies their mind most the time. Before starting her lunch in office, she invariably thinks whether her child had her lunch properly.
It is common that every child will post their desires to their parents, especially at the childhood such as a Sunday outing, a family tour, a restaurant dinner with the parents, toys, movies, playing of running and catching in the beach and a list goes really long.
But actually how many children get their desires fulfilled as immediately they post it to their parents. A working mother faces lots of time based issues in fulfilling their children’s dreams. This becomes a big burden in the hearts of the mother. The working mother child relationship becomes widened as they happen to spend minimum hours together. Days may come where there are possibilities of a child fixing an appointment with the mother to rest on her lap.
This absolutely does not mean that the mothers give more importance to their work than the children because the fact is well known that most mothers work for the present and the future life of their children. Regardless of working, the mother can maintain a smooth flow of relationship with their children when they speak out with their children. It is a basic and essential responsibility of every mother to make their kids feel the love that they have for their children. They should make their children feel that the children are the parents’ special ones.
No doubt that every mother’s heart beats in parallel with that of their children’s. A mother might not be in a situation to fulfil a desire of the child, but until it is fulfilled, the mother does not prioritise any other thought in her mind. All that she thinks and plans is to find ways to make her child’s dream turn real. Every mother would always long to see the happiness in their kids’ face on getting what they wanted. But, not in all cases, the children are able to understand the right sense of it. Unless otherwise, the mother communicates their situation to the children, there is an invisible line develops in the heart of the child. Communication can make everything clear and transparent. So, Mothers, please talk to the kids and make them feel they are unique.
A mother is the first lover of every child and the children are the last lover of every mother. Still, a working mother is always unanswerable whether she gives her 100% to her child. Pathetic… but true! I know the pain of it!!
